Counselling for Couples
Should you stay or should you go.
To stay or go is a question many face when a relationship is failing.
Stay, and embrace intimacy with another.
Go, and embrace intimacy with self.
Which will appease this ongoing loneliness they feel? ………..Both.
Discouragingly, couples usually feel a loss of connection. They think there is this fantasy idea that the relationship was better before now, and what they have now is its remnants. The blame game occurs. How each changed within the time and how they are different to now. What could be described as two people growing and changing is defined as broken, damaged or over.
It is as though couples enter the therapeutic space like two children eager to tell on each other. They present evidence of who did what and how they hurt the other. They expect the therapist to play the parental role and offer a magical solution to their disagreements.
The refreshing truth is that both are wounded and confused, and both very much agree that something is wrong.
This realisation is what we refer to as the “ah-ha” moment. When the couple can see and agree that there is a problem (and to be clear, not usually the same problem), the couple can start to see this journey as a solution-focused one, instead of “pointing out the problem” stuck position finding reasons to leave a relationship.
Straight away, solution and teamwork can reform. The couple no longer sees each other as the problem but the possibility of what they can do to achieve a resolution.
This is where the real work begins.
If you are still not convinced, the flip side is one of separation, divorce, or affair.
These are uncharted paths. Paths that shift each other’s mindset to a Me Vs You, teamed with you’re the problem, makes for rough roads to navigate.
Couples counselling is NOT the only solution. If you struggle to maintain yourself within your relationship, we can help. Many couples notice considerable improvements in their ability to communicate and work through their relationship problems by coming to therapy alone.
Why not be 100% ready for yourself. Do not diminish your growth again by believing you must isolate yourself from a relationship you have already invested so much into to be balanced and happy. Successful therapy breaks us free from thinking that another’s actions govern us. Imagine being yourself powerfully in any situation.
Click here to contact me for a free, no-obligation phone call. My clinic is conveniently located in Arana Hills in Brisbane North. Also available for zoom appointments if required.
